tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post3591692446002395090..comments2023-11-03T08:13:04.072-04:00Comments on anabegins: 2012 Intention: MarriageAnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-23764018554286405222012-01-07T08:01:01.285-05:002012-01-07T08:01:01.285-05:00Seriously. When I go back to med school in a year...Seriously. When I go back to med school in a year, and start residency, I have no idea when we'll ever talk. Unfortunately, I think this is part of "becoming an adult" which makes me a little sad. Hopefully we'll still find a way to make time for one another.OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-53857923965473448392012-01-06T16:20:57.228-05:002012-01-06T16:20:57.228-05:00OMDG, It's great that you recognized the issue...OMDG, It's great that you recognized the issue and go to bed early with Luca. I think you'll find plenty of opportunity to talk during the early newborn days--you'll both be up at all kinds of hours--but these will disappear once the offspring becomes more demanding of your complete attention (and even more after (s)he can understand your conversations!)For us, B is our alarm clock so the mornings are not prime couple time. <br /><br />slowmamma: I like that idea a lot. A nightly glass of wine & chat sounds lovely.anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18320182732889825712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-62266921722825509342012-01-06T13:18:49.134-05:002012-01-06T13:18:49.134-05:00I know that we have exactly the same struggles. O...I know that we have exactly the same struggles. Ours are made worse by the fact that g doesn't go to sleep until 11:30/12:00, when we do.<br /><br />I could use some advice in this dept myself but it strikes me that maybe you guys could find a small window before you go to bed. Perhaps you could stay up just a bit more with him and institute a little ritual - a night tea/glass of wine/milk/whiskey/whatever and a chat or something. I think something like that would make an enormous difference to us, even if it doesn't address the cuddling, etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-71343190090216645392012-01-06T12:46:25.622-05:002012-01-06T12:46:25.622-05:00This post really resonated with me. My husband ne...This post really resonated with me. My husband needs to go to bed early because he gets up at 4:40 to go to work. I... do not need to get up that early (thank GOD). I still try to go to bed with him since -- as with you and G -- this is the only time during the week when we get alone time. I recently had to bad the Kindle Fire from the bedroom because he had started watching it after we went to bed. Which, can I say, completely destroyed together time.<br /><br />Recently during a bout of pregnancy induced insomnia I also experimented with getting up with him and talking in the early morning (he's much more awake and able to talk in the morning than when he's passing out on the couch in the evening), and it worked out really well. I am hoping that one of the side effects of having this baby will be that I will have to get up early with him more often, and that we'll get more quality time to talk then.<br /><br />I was also thinking that I used to really love preparing meals with him. Maybe one day a week, we can do something more elaborate than our usual. We'll see how difficult that becomes when the offspring arrives.<br /><br />I'm not sure how helpful any of this is. I think all couples struggle with this problem over time, and it's so easy to fall into trap of just trying to get things done, and not spending quality time together.OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.com