tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post4402133252815452259..comments2023-11-03T08:13:04.072-04:00Comments on anabegins: Letting it goAnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-61578060192836580662015-08-31T12:21:04.215-04:002015-08-31T12:21:04.215-04:00oh all our bags and full of clif and other bars. L...oh all our bags and full of clif and other bars. L likes them but B doesn't really love them. he prefers savory snacks, like me. I'll eat a bar if there is literally nothing else available but i won't like it. Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-19807444441174451542015-08-31T12:19:56.485-04:002015-08-31T12:19:56.485-04:00i do that often---or remind him to take something-...i do that often---or remind him to take something---but sometimes he goes while I'm at the gym or just decided to leave unexpectedly and I don't remember. we usually carry bars around, which one kid likes and one kid doesn't. I can't begin to explain how much B actually needs to eat. He eats more than I do---and I eat a LOT. He is constantly moving, and seems to be growing. Yesterday he ate apparently an entire turkey sandwich (2 slices thick hearty bread, 4 slices turkey, mayo & mustard) a bowl of carrot sticks, an orange and a glass of milk. 1.5 hours later, when he was at Target with G, he was STARVING and ate a bar and a bag of cheese puffs. that held him for another 1.5 hours when he ate more carrots, another piece of bread and THREE TACOS loaded with beans/chicken/cheese/guac, a glass of milk and then whined for more food and eventually ate an ice cream cone with chocoltae ice cream (from home). Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-62941070668415985422015-08-29T11:03:07.302-04:002015-08-29T11:03:07.302-04:00Clif bars. Cheap and convenient. If your kids wi...Clif bars. Cheap and convenient. If your kids will eat them.<br /><br />But also, totally agree on letting the small stuff go, especially if it makes the other person happy.OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-1605837474366710472015-08-28T21:30:54.233-04:002015-08-28T21:30:54.233-04:00Okay, and re: snacks: maybe pre-pack some snack b...Okay, and re: snacks: maybe pre-pack some snack bags for G to grab that have water bottles/trail mix/whatever? I totally don't think you SHOULD have to, but if he would take this and not spend $ that you don't want him to spend, it might be worth a shot. I pack Josh's lunch for this reason. (Because he is less likely to do it, and this ultimately saves us both $ and prevents wasted food.)sarah (SHU)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09785177204149427781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-71938419026741451252015-08-28T21:28:43.430-04:002015-08-28T21:28:43.430-04:00I can identify much more with this post than the l...I can identify much more with this post than the last one. Being unhappy and stressed is not worth $10 (or $20, etc). I will adjust my YNAB categories as the month goes on so that I don't "fail". Put a little more in restaurants out of vacation savings, for example. Maybe that's defeating the purpose, but for me it isn't - I don't see the categories as hard lines but as guidelines. It helps my awareness but doesn't mean I feel terrible about going over in some things sometimes. The only category I won't "adjust' is our personal spending allowances. sarah (SHU)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09785177204149427781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-9530943763565427812015-08-28T15:07:56.871-04:002015-08-28T15:07:56.871-04:00I don't think we do actually... I have a post ...I don't think we do actually... I have a post on starting DC1 on an an allowance, but it doesn't really get into that https://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.com/2010/11/16/the-allowances-post/<br /><br />And I think I've mentioned before that I'm a little worried that our kids may be locked into high-paying careers if we don't carefully teach them money management lessons that my sister and I learned growing up with a depression baby for a father. (Maybe that's not such a bad thing. Math is pretty fun.) But I don't think there's an actual post on that. I try to remember from time to time to show the kids (right now just the oldest) how to do price comparisons at the grocery store, even though we don't have to do it anymore. DH never learned how to do it growing up and I had to teach him when we got married, and now that we don't really need to do it anymore, he doesn't do it automatically and he does the bulk of the grocery shopping.nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-63355405058769010682015-08-28T14:46:46.698-04:002015-08-28T14:46:46.698-04:00good topic. may be its own post (or maybe you alre...good topic. may be its own post (or maybe you already have one?)Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-74753444353444146902015-08-28T13:01:59.839-04:002015-08-28T13:01:59.839-04:00It's never too early to start learning about t...It's never too early to start learning about trade-offs, even if it's just that trade-offs exist. (It's not the exact dollar amount that's so important as the trade-offs between scarce resources... if we do this, we can't do that, etc. What do they prefer? And specifically, what do they prefer when they're not in the moment but thinking about future preferences.)nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-30262459935442995132015-08-28T12:53:21.050-04:002015-08-28T12:53:21.050-04:00my kids don't quite get the concept of money y...my kids don't quite get the concept of money yet. they find a penny on the ground and want to buy a movie with it. "how many monies is that mommy" oh 15 dollars? so i need 3 more pennies? Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-29751207333311143742015-08-28T12:49:19.448-04:002015-08-28T12:49:19.448-04:00You might even be able to get the kids involved in...You might even be able to get the kids involved in the discussion!nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-25515928184692528332015-08-28T12:23:34.685-04:002015-08-28T12:23:34.685-04:00yes, I"m thinking about this, too. Whether th...yes, I"m thinking about this, too. Whether the categories aren't working because they are not the right ones. I may play around with that for next month.Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-6569931401882823412015-08-28T11:59:39.510-04:002015-08-28T11:59:39.510-04:00Also, one big thought on the previous thread, that...Also, one big thought on the previous thread, that I was kind of poking around. A big thing about allowances/mini-budgets is that they keep people (like me, and it sounds like you too) who tend to fret about things leeway not to fret. That's "his" money or that money is assigned to that category. (This was hugely freeing to me and still is-- I <3 DH's allowance so much.)<br /><br />If the current categories aren't working because you're fretting about them, maybe there's some structural re-jiggering of categories that will make everybody happier while still keeping to long-term goals. So you can save in a separate targeted fund for the bigger goals that you feel like you're missing out on, or decide that the smaller goals are more important and need more money assigned compared to other categories, or give the kids' their own allowances, or have a separate budget for fun out with kids, etc. etc. etc. There's infinite possible combinations that can help manage your money as a family in a way that's consistent with your values and goals.<br /><br />Managing money when you can't say "yes" to everything is really complicated! But I think when it feels like something isn't working, that's just a signal to try an alternate solution.nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-16214324244810155052015-08-28T11:31:26.051-04:002015-08-28T11:31:26.051-04:00Sounds like a plan! Sounds like a plan! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com