tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post7302125422873144699..comments2023-11-03T08:13:04.072-04:00Comments on anabegins: 8 yearsAnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-71212031092381422182012-05-11T02:03:39.394-04:002012-05-11T02:03:39.394-04:00DH and I had a thingy a couple of weeks ago where ...DH and I had a thingy a couple of weeks ago where both of us were dissatisfied, him feeling overwhelmed by work and me wanting to spend a little time with him (which takes away from his work time). In the end we decided that we would walk together to do school pickups. Previously I'd been doing them most of the time (he usually does dropoff) to give him another 20 minutes to work before they descend on the house, but those particular 20 minutes are more useful to us as a couple than to him as a worker.<br /><br />Watching TV or doing housework "together" wasn't leading to the opportunity for real connection that I'd been wanting. So far, having 20 minutes (10 without kids, and 10 with kids who mostly just sit in the stroller and do their own thing) to really talk has been great. It's rarely anything earth-shattering, but so far it's always been stuff that we wouldn't talk about without that walk.<br /><br />Good luck finding a time/way to have more conversations.Baby Smiling In Back Seathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06483533946303787478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-57635995523301892922012-05-07T14:11:30.567-04:002012-05-07T14:11:30.567-04:00Yes, exactly. Hate it and wish I had the energy to...Yes, exactly. Hate it and wish I had the energy to change it. This is the one area of life that I gave myself an "F" in, and I haven't really improved in the past 6 weeks...Unfortunately the "opening up" was very brief, and when I try to bring it up again, I am rebuffed. But he did ask unequivocally for some "me time" for himself, and I am more than happy to help make that happen.anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18320182732889825712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-68393773913139820732012-05-06T09:47:22.188-04:002012-05-06T09:47:22.188-04:00I'm pretty sure that when I've posted abou...I'm pretty sure that when I've posted about similar things, you've been among the many people telling me how normal it is... It's extra rough when your partner admits to suffering--I know I always feel like I've failed when my husband is hurting. But hey, I seem to recall you making a real effort to make time for the two of you, and feeling like your efforts were in vain. You are both dealing with lots of pressure, and doing your best. It's wretched that the thing you both need is MORE TIME. There's no real fix for that one. But I hope him opening up is a good sign. When Mr. Bunny and I are having rough patches, it's always better if we at least talk. <br /><br />Right now, we're just roommates. I hate that, and wish I had the energy to change it, but I don't.bunnyhttp://glumbunny.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-54457011742206741832012-05-04T13:29:37.333-04:002012-05-04T13:29:37.333-04:00I wish I had an answer. But knowing I'm not al...I wish I had an answer. But knowing I'm not alone in this helps immensely. Hopefully we'll both (all 4?) figure it out soon.anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18320182732889825712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-2245834630459600342012-05-04T11:55:42.868-04:002012-05-04T11:55:42.868-04:00Um.... are you sure you and G are not Luca and I i...Um.... are you sure you and G are not Luca and I in a parallel universe? <br /><br />Seriously.<br /><br />If you figure out a way to make things better for your husband, can you please let me know? Because I feel just how you describe. I know my husband needs more from me than I've been able to provide these past few months, I just don't know how to give it to him when I'm struggling so much myself. I miss all the things we used to do together (run, swim, even grocery shop) that we can't do now that we have the kiddo. And there's so much work for both of us that even if we could find something to replace those things I don't know that we'd have time to do it.OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.com