tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post1286135370097766223..comments2023-11-03T08:13:04.072-04:00Comments on anabegins: Can I have a treat?Anahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-29377696738590551982016-03-16T13:04:31.678-04:002016-03-16T13:04:31.678-04:00Thanks for the link. I haven't linked back to ...Thanks for the link. I haven't linked back to my old blog yet but N&M made the connection a while ago. My new haunt started out as less personal and more financial/political but it's boring without the personal touch.middle class revolutionhttps://middleclassrevolution.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-12438496153626975192016-03-14T13:37:19.185-04:002016-03-14T13:37:19.185-04:00btw, for your readers, here's oilandgarlic'...btw, for your readers, here's oilandgarlic's post. She had a really cool flow chart: https://oilandgarlic.wordpress.com/2013/03/27/frugal-substitutes-the-master-list/nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-3111807361932511162016-03-14T12:22:36.789-04:002016-03-14T12:22:36.789-04:00I did not make that connection! I did not make that connection! Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-79559990327558484252016-03-14T11:48:30.666-04:002016-03-14T11:48:30.666-04:00Not having to stress out when I do something dumb ...Not having to stress out when I do something dumb is one of the primary reasons we have so much money saved. nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-29913353550788802542016-03-14T11:43:16.891-04:002016-03-14T11:43:16.891-04:00She hasn't actually stopped blogging-- she'...She hasn't actually stopped blogging-- she's now posting/blogging as middle class revolution.nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-66135189244544836102016-03-14T11:26:17.223-04:002016-03-14T11:26:17.223-04:00YES. I agree that it is about control, I think I w...YES. I agree that it is about control, I think I wrote about my tendency to get a bit restrictive and numbers-obsessed with food & budget when everything else is falling apart around me. I usually notice it and can step back from it and in honesty I"m not committed enough to actually lose weight or save much money, but I get it. I wore some gorgeous but feet-killer shoes this weekend, that I bought before I started this whole budget thing. I'm overall glad that I stopped this specific category of purchases, it took a whole day for my feet to recover. Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-51563843401433582492016-03-14T11:22:27.092-04:002016-03-14T11:22:27.092-04:00yeah, i'm recovering from a "daily basis&...yeah, i'm recovering from a "daily basis" type situation here myself. Mostly in the form of carbs...but definitely better as a "once in a while" then a "daily and expected" thing. Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-65210263275814047142016-03-14T11:21:25.590-04:002016-03-14T11:21:25.590-04:00oh yes. during residency, the very act of shopping...oh yes. during residency, the very act of shopping made me feel human and part of the real world again. I definitely had my (reasonable, well within my budget) treats. Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-12093833493217687032016-03-14T11:19:59.027-04:002016-03-14T11:19:59.027-04:00How stressed out she felt about having to buy lunc...How stressed out she felt about having to buy lunch one day turned me off, too. I'd be annoyed if I left my lunch at home, too, but there is no room in my life for that kind of stress over $5-$10. Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-30255331180383471002016-03-14T11:18:22.643-04:002016-03-14T11:18:22.643-04:00It was oilandgarlic! I knew it was someone who sto...It was oilandgarlic! I knew it was someone who stopped blogging. Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-56977514424842501172016-03-12T13:58:57.113-05:002016-03-12T13:58:57.113-05:00i read the post you're referencing and it made...i read the post you're referencing and it made me feel guilty for my coping mechanism to get through residency, which, aside from exercising, involves buying something from my wish list (which i've budgeted for) after difficult rotations. there is definitely a time and a place for treats. Catehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13635808302306218421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-29392767117849130522016-03-12T00:49:06.952-05:002016-03-12T00:49:06.952-05:00I'm glad I can enjoy most treats without guilt...I'm glad I can enjoy most treats without guilt!Nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-29442605157115091792016-03-11T22:53:28.935-05:002016-03-11T22:53:28.935-05:00Yes, it's true, I've seen those posts re: ...Yes, it's true, I've seen those posts re: anniversary (or birthday?) dinner out too... but I meant more this: http://www.frugalwoods.com/2015/03/20/weekly-woot-grumble-that-one-time-i-forgot-my-lunch-and-our-car-inspection/ <br />I'm more on Ana's page - if it's everyday it's not really a treat but I think there's a bit of space between everyday (or at the expense of your finances, health and ability to feel gratitude) and once a year/never. Canuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03386196132946386809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-85191000030959655102016-03-11T20:12:44.191-05:002016-03-11T20:12:44.191-05:00It's weird because I thought she had a post a ...It's weird because I thought she had a post a while back talking about how they went out while they were on vacation and enjoyed it more because it was a rare treat. I vaguely remember pictures of breakfast.Nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-7700740181942177502016-03-11T19:56:58.221-05:002016-03-11T19:56:58.221-05:00Yeah, this is part of the reason I stopped reading...Yeah, this is part of the reason I stopped reading that blog. Consumption not being the road to happiness/living within your means? Of course. Treating one meal out/one new dress as if it's the end of the world? No. <br />I often wonder what I would think about if I was dying, either tomorrow or in 60 years. I'm pretty sure the chance I would think "I wish I hadn't bought that fancy chocolate or gone out for those dinners with friends and saved more money" is zero.Canuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03386196132946386809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-85746322478816572652016-03-11T19:46:41.039-05:002016-03-11T19:46:41.039-05:00LOVE THIS. i have my (somewhat similar) post half...LOVE THIS. i have my (somewhat similar) post half written :) i love treats. not all treats have to be healthy or virtuous either. moderation is a thing for a reason. sarah (SHU)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09785177204149427781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-19893670941772046232016-03-11T17:39:14.375-05:002016-03-11T17:39:14.375-05:00I don't think I'd get through life as a ph...I don't think I'd get through life as a physician (and I certainly wouldn't have made it through my licensing exam) if I didn't have treats for those days when work and life are just hard. I love your idea of "strategically timing treats to lift you out of a bad mood or as a reprieve from a rough time", and it's something I definitely try to do.<br /><br />When I'm not treating myself on a daily basis, that is.Solitary Dinerhttp://www.solitarydiner.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-15714163489401559952016-03-11T17:01:12.249-05:002016-03-11T17:01:12.249-05:00Oh yes. Exaggerate away. In all honesty, I find m...Oh yes. Exaggerate away. In all honesty, I find myself getting pretty annoyed too, despite the fact that I most likely fall into the category of "frugal weirdo". <br /><br />I suspect that some of the extremist nature of those sentiments comes as a reactionary response to the more common tendency towards overconsumption. But I think that deep down it is really about control. And, just the way that healthy eating can morph into an eating disorder when it is hijacked in the service of exerting control over one's circumstances, the same can apply to our relationship to finances. I guess I prefer to let go of some of that control and accept the consequences of those damn shoes that looked so adorable but hurt my feet than to risk going down that road.slowmammahttps://slowmamma.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-30521447938741839242016-03-11T16:48:30.888-05:002016-03-11T16:48:30.888-05:00Hm, though maybe you weren't reading us yet at...Hm, though maybe you weren't reading us yet at that point. Anyway, it was a great comment by Debbie M.nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-41744003171895347432016-03-11T16:44:38.567-05:002016-03-11T16:44:38.567-05:00Here it is, courtesy of Debbie M!
https://nicolea...Here it is, courtesy of Debbie M!<br /><br />https://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.com/2013/03/15/ask-the-grumpies-lower-cost-pampering-substitutes/<br /><br />I have two more tea related puns that I'm waiting for an opportunity to use, but I haven't found the context yet. Like, I'd put one here, but then you'd be like, "Well, what does that have to do with the price of tea in China?" So I can't.nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-71434313056096547162016-03-11T16:09:16.577-05:002016-03-11T16:09:16.577-05:00That post you liked was one of ours based on a blo...That post you liked was one of ours based on a blogger comment that we highlighted. I will dig it up next time I'm at my computer. <br /><br />Treats are awesome! Nicoleandmaggiehttp://nicoleandmaggie.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-44697416205244021652016-03-11T16:07:35.866-05:002016-03-11T16:07:35.866-05:00yeah, if it happens every day, its a habit, not a ...yeah, if it happens every day, its a habit, not a treat. we sometimes fall into daily desserts (I'm sure its going to happen now, because my husband bought a HUGE pack of popsicles yesterday) and then its just an expectation AND it becomes "not enough". So they are super excited about popsicles, but after having them daily for a week they'll want something more AFTER the popsicle. I try to keep it really random and unexpected. Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-44590290486777855762016-03-11T15:54:33.648-05:002016-03-11T15:54:33.648-05:00Yeah I agree with everything you say! (And even c...Yeah I agree with everything you say! (And even caught that tea reference!) I do think it's tricky with kids when treat=every day thing. We don't use that word (not strategic, I just don't). they do eat dessert every day, and have a limited amount of (highly coveted) screen time and the occasional vacation...gwinnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04840990153103781272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-65390753110662497342016-03-11T14:38:25.016-05:002016-03-11T14:38:25.016-05:00And yes, I absolutely get upset when my money is &...And yes, I absolutely get upset when my money is "wasted" on things that don't live up to my expectation, though I'm working on just moving on and chalking it up to the "price of experience"Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-46192912422763140912016-03-11T14:36:02.921-05:002016-03-11T14:36:02.921-05:00In honesty, I completely agree with your second pa...In honesty, I completely agree with your second paragraph. I don't actually get angry/upset by those bloggers, but I like writing my dissent, and I may exaggerate my annoyance for effect :) I do admire said blogger's expertise & commitment to frugality, and she's a great writer to boot. What does irk me is the lack of any alternate viewpoints or dissent, even in the comment section. Since there isn't room for debate on their blog, I bring it to my own space. Anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.com