tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post7041242426544069478..comments2023-11-03T08:13:04.072-04:00Comments on anabegins: Serenity NowAnahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00006807775816627217noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-62888696582370302122019-02-25T21:39:16.684-05:002019-02-25T21:39:16.684-05:00My oldest has pretty severe ADHD and the only way ...My oldest has pretty severe ADHD and the only way we can have peaceful mornings is by giving him a small amount of screen time once he has completed his "checklist"--on a dry erase board we have a short list of what he has to do. He is 9 but to be blunt is more on par with my 3.5 year old when it comes to completing self care/ hygiene/ self prep tasks like teeth, hair, shoes and socks, getting his backpack ready etc. He needs a big carrot to keep his eyes on the prize and for him it's screen time. He has 20 minutes once his checklist is completed. I think your boys are maybe older so that might not be motivation enough for them, but maybe they could earn a check for every morning it's done well and on the third day receive a small reward. In general---I really recommend the book "The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child"--HORRIBLE title I know, but it is a sensitively and thoroughly written book that I found so helpful and offers some very practical advice on setting up rewards systems. My typically developing kids don't need this kind of planning and thought which is frustrating--my oldest requires so much more energy--but the book was empowering. Sorry for the very long and random comment, I just thought I'd offer what has worked for us!Susannahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-6869536487320392482019-02-17T03:43:20.579-05:002019-02-17T03:43:20.579-05:00Bribery is often what works to create better habit...Bribery is often what works to create better habits. As adults, we call it positive reinforcement. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9219236556397495909.post-18652149429614128412019-02-16T11:17:58.662-05:002019-02-16T11:17:58.662-05:00Bribery is NOT bad parenting. It's positive r...Bribery is NOT bad parenting. It's positive reinforcement. <br /><br />I too am tired of this crap weather (and my crap schedule... but that's another issue). My goal is to hunker down until I'm done with this rotation in 7.5 weeks (q2-3 call, no post-call days), and then study like hell for my oral boards, and THEN hit the gas on my research projects again. But Jesus, when is this ever going to be less intense? Can somebody please tell me?OMDGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17937425894428802591noreply@blogger.com