You know when you look in the mirror and you get a little twinge of dismay, because how you look in real life is just slightly...off...from how you imagine yourself in your head?
I've been feeling that way about my life lately. My reality just isn't living up to how I envision myself in my head. How do I picture myself? Hard-working, successful, organized, physically active & fit, creative, social, and eking all I can out of each day. What my days have been like lately? Falling behind at work, disorganized to the point of missing deadlines and misplacing important items, haven't exercised in MONTHS, much less sewed/baked/etc.., isolated & blowing off any opportunities to meet new people, and feeling like I'm frittering away the limited free time I do have. I trudge through the workday and the dinner/bed routine and then stay up for hours surfing the internet or watching TV with a glass (or two) of wine. I can't even bring myself to read a book. I tell myself the most productive use of time would probably be going to bed early so I can get up refreshed and energized in the morning, but I seem stuck...
I need some way to motivate myself, because I know that when I DO accomplish these things, I feel so much better about myself.
Ideas?
Are you getting enough sleep and eating decently? Because being off on those makes everything else seem HARD.
ReplyDeleteGo easy on yourself - you have a lot going on. I felt this way a few months ago and wrote this:
http://houseofpeanut.blogspot.com/2012/03/on-productivity-and-being-kind-to.html
Suggestion...
ReplyDeletePick one thing you want to add back into your life, plan how you're going to do it, and try to stick with it for a month before adding something else.
And commit to being screen free after 9PM or something. Being sleep deprived just sucks and makes everything else seem that much more daunting.
I was thinking the same two things--choose one thing that you want to work on, and unplug after whenever to make sure you're not just zoning the night away. But mainly, cut yourself massive slack. You work really hard to meet your ideals, and I think that counts for a lot. Me, I don't even have a self image that's as cool as yours, let alone a self. I say this as I drink a glass of wine...
ReplyDeleteBoth great suggestions. I was really good about the screen free but G really considers "watching something" as prime couple time. I may need to limit it to a couple of times a week. And also put the phone down. Reading a book is better.
ReplyDeleteLuca and I like watching stuff too, but it seems to work better if we watch something relatively "high quality" that makes us want to talk to each other rather than channel surfing. Maybe that could be a compromise?
DeleteOh we don't actually have a TV or cable...we def watch "high quality" stuff...it still takes time away from other things (sleep) esp now that B doesn't get to bed til 8:30 most nights (still awake but lying in bed now) and we then need to make lunches/bottles & clean the kitchen...it's at least 9 before we can watch anything.
ReplyDeleteYou're making me really really happy that our daycare provides lunch.... not that it's an issue yet, but I can see it becoming one next year.
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