The Heavy G & I are in a rough spot. Nothing HAPPENED, we are just getting on each others' nerves...fighting and bickering in a way we never have before. At least once per day, one of us mutturs (or shouts) "I just can't TALK to you". So its clear that our issue is in the way we communicate (or don't) with each other.
Our current tactic for dealing with this is the oh-so-helpful denial and avoidance. By the time the kids are in bed and we actually can have a discussion, neither of us are want to stir things up. So I go read in bed, or we sit side by side and watch TV. And it begins again the next day.
We finally had a talk last night which cleared some of the air. We both acknowledged that we are putting each other last in terms of priorities in life---not purposefully, but by default, since other things whine and demand and have deadlines or stinky diapers. He's going to work on thinking before he speaks, I'm going to work on more clearly articulating my needs so he doesn't feel he has to be a mind reader. Basic basic remedial marriage 101 stuff. I guess its about time for a refresher for us.
The Light L is an extremely touchy & grabby child. Until recently he was obsessed with ears. One thumb in mouth, the other hand fondling someone's ear---anyone who happened to be around. Sometimes even strangers we happened to be standing near, like a dad in our swimming class, or the guy watching the monkeys next to us at the zoo. Awkward. He's moved on from ears, though. To belly buttons. Ummm....more awkward...when he goes up to people and lifts their shirts to poke their "Buttie". I don't want to know what's next.