So I've been thinking about resolutions for 2014. I've considering doing monthly ones, Happiness Project-style. Or doing multiple "Intentions" in parallel like I tried in 2012. Instead I've decided to layer my resolutions for this year. I'm starting by building the foundation.
Last time, I identified 6 areas of life I wanted to focus on, but this time I'm sticking to just 3. The three things that form the absolute core of my life, which also happen to be the areas I really think I can do better: marriage, parenting, and career. If these things aren't going well, there is no point trying to add more to my life. So I want to spend the first few months of the year really trying to form (and break) some key habits that should make those parts of life work more smoothly. Once I achieve that, I'll move on to the next (yet to be determined) steps.
I am aware that I didn't include "health" or "personal time" this year. Because the habits I set on those 2 years ago have stuck around and I don't currently feel the need to reinvent the wheel. I'm exercising 3-4 times a week, both running and strength training. I plan to run the 10-miler again this spring. I eat fairly well and have completely stopped snacking. I'm drinking my 2 liters of water every work day. I'm getting as much sleep as I can given inevitable interruptions like hacking coughs, insomnia, and 2-year olds. I think I read 30 books last year, and I've already read 1.5 this year. I'm blogging. I go to most book club meetings. I occasionally have outings with friends. I might add more specific goals about those areas in the future, but now is the time to work on the foundation.
These are the specific steps I've decided to take:
- Weekly night (we picked Friday) to talk and hang out (no TV or movies). If something comes up on Friday, we need to immediately pick another day and put it on the calendar.
- Make a list of movies to watch and watch one with G twice a month
- Once a month date night out. 4 times a year to do something other than eat/drink (i.e. orchestra, museum, play, concert)
- *Do not say "nothing" when asked what's wrong. If I'm not ready to talk about it, just say that.
- Real hug every morning and night (better than the perfunctory peck on the lips we generally do)
- *Do not roll eyes at G (I got this from "Happier at Home" that I'm in the middle of right now. Apparently very alienating and clearly very infuriating to be the recipient)
*specific to Ana
- Do not yell
- Special breakfasts (also from "Happier at Home") for holidays
- Pick up kids twice a week from school
- Continue participation in daycare Parents' Board (my kids spend a combined 80+ hours in that school...I want some say in how things are run!)
- Start one class for B in addition to swimming (gymnastics, soccer?) this year
- Read/learn about 4-year old development
Career (more general things I need to do, not specific career goals, which I'm working on as well)
- Make plans for each week BEFORE Monday AM (use paper and pen as on-line systems have been failing me lately)
- Re-initiate regular meetings with research mentors
- Set specific times of day for checking email and EMR/patient messages
- Identify and employ strategies for limiting time-wasting on the internet (blocking software, accountability partner?)
- Track time at work (5 days) every 8 weeks to note progress (must be HONEST in tracking)
I'll start with these steps, and will update every 2 weeks into how I'm doing on each of them to hold myself accountable. As always, any advice is welcome (what planner should I get? Any good books on 4-year olds?), since I assume some of you have conquered many of these yourself.