Don't you just love the shiny fresh feel of a new year? A blank slate, ready to be (neatly) filled in with wonderful things. And then the fuck-ups begin.
Only 3 days into 2013, and I hit a low point this morning. It was one of our typical weekday starts: chaotic, disorganized, and long beyond comprehension. I mean seriously, we get up before the sun and can't seem to make it out of the house until 9. I need to describe our mornings in more detail, in hopes of getting some advice on changing them, but just thinking about it is raising my blood pressure right now, so I'll save that for another day.
Anyways, I snapped at the boys. And then when G finally emerged I completely blew up at him for taking so long. And then he lost his shit at me, obviously. There was lots of yelling and unhappiness all around. When we finally coaxed B to the door to leave he declared tearfully "I was not happy when you were yelling".
Great. Not only is my marriage on shaky ground but now my kid is scarred for life? All before I even make it to work in the morning? Ugh.
As usual, time give perspective and I realize G & I will be fine. B will be fine. We just need a better morning routine.
As a veteran of the morning routine blowup, I would be happy to provide input, though not sure how helpful it would be. :-P
ReplyDeleteWe have actually been pretty successful these past few months in not fighting in the mornings. Mostly. Things get bad when there is any sort of perturbation to the routine. Not sure how to get around that.
Post a sample schedule and let's take a look!
Ah the morning routine. I HATE mornings.
ReplyDeleteI am usually not home during the morning routine which is nice, except when my partner calls me all exasperated and upset and I have to talk my daughter down from some horrible tantrum and all the stress of their morning spills into mine and I carry it, along with the guilt of not being there, with me through all my classes.
I actually just made my daughter a little picture chart with what she is supposed to do each morning. It's being laminated now and I'm going to post about it over the weekend so you can give it a look. I'll let you all know how it goes after Daddy tries it for a few weeks.
I'm sorry you had such a hard morning and I hope tomorrow is better.
Abiding with you.
Also, have I ever asked you if your blog title comes from the Counting Crows song of the same name. They were my absolute favorite band and that was my FAVORITE song. Just wondering if that is where you got your name. ;)
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