Original Intention: "I want to try to plan one social outing each weekend...[and] focus on growing the relationships I do have"
I have done pretty well with this. I've ignored the working-mom guilt, and actually spent some time with my friends on weekends. I also overcame my intertia and reached out to actually make the plans, since they weren't exactly falling into my lap. I've had a couple of brunches with my girlfriends and we even had all my lab friends over for a pot-luck dinner party [btw, great way for parents to hang out with their child-free friends...have them over after kids are in bed! no need for babysitter!]
I would say the biggest obstacle I've met here is my guilt over being the only one taking time to myself. As in, G just doesn't do it. He says he doesn't mind, but it makes things feel so...uneven. Yeah yeah blah blah these things even out over years in a marriage, but I don't like feeling like I'm the one taking advantage. Also, I know now how amazing it feels to get out on my own and I'd like to help him have the same experience. But again, blah blah can't change anyone else...etc...
I'm not giving myself an A here because I'd like to expand on this intention and really try to meet some new friends. I went to a "working moms" happy hour once this year, and met some nice enough ladies...maybe I'll try more of the activities scheduled through that group, or the neighborhood group that's trying to improve the local elementary school (i.e. the reason most people LEAVE and move to the burbs before the kids turn 5). My problem is, I just wasn't feeling it with any of the moms I met in those groups and so I kind of wrote them off. But, maybe I need to give it more time....in those big group situations, you really can't tell one way or the other until you've hung out a few times. I thought all the women in my book group were super-weird, but I kept going, and now 3 years in, I've realized that only half of them are super-weird---and I like them anyways.
I've also been simply...sucky...at keeping in touch with my far-away friends. I need to just pick up the phone. Reading facebook status updates doesn't mean that I'm "caught up" on their lives. I really do value some of these relationships, and need to put the effort in to maintain them.
More happy hours, more phone gabbing, more book club...this sounds like it'll actually be fun!