Do you ever wish you could just take a week or two, send your family away, and lounge around eating junk food and binge-watching TV all day in your pajamas?
I think my fantasy would involve someone else doing all the housework, me getting to sleep in, and eating lots of fancy food (like from fancy restaurants).
Sadly I would spend the entire time feeling guilty I wasn't doing research. In this fantasy I would have to be incapacitated somehow and unable to work. Preferably with RAs or coauthors getting stuff done without me.
socializing, yes, I'd want that too...but like "meet friend for brunch" or "long run & chat" kind of socialize...not anyone who needs anything from me.
My dream is to be left alone for weeks (months? years?) on end. I am sure I'd eventually start craving human contact, but not for a while. Ah, to only be responsible for myself. To be able to sleep as much as I want, and get up when I want, and make the food what i want or nothing at all, to work as much as I want and as late as I want, and watch whatever I want whenever I want... The problem is that it would be hard to get back in the grind so I probably shouldn't indulge. They will all go to college some day. Except the husband.
I am currently on "vacation" with 2/3 of my brood, sans DH and eldest offspring. "Vacation" means driving all day, little $%#@^ waking me up at 5 am the next day because they are too excited and go-go-go-go all day (where do they get the energy), dropping a shitton of money because they are spoiled and I am a wuss. And in the evening I have to review a proposal because I am hopelessly backlogged on everything, always.
two weekends ago I checked into a hotel by myself, got an upgrade to a suite, spent an hour or so crocheting & watching tv, then went to the bar & ate canapés & had a glass of bubbly before going to a charity ball. I went to the ball with 9 other Mum's from my daughter's school- no partners. A good meal, wine & dancing. Back to the hotel by myself- ran a bath & watched Bones. Slept in the next morning. Had a peaceful breakfast and prepped for A job interview by reminding myself of the great & interesting things I've achieved. Then had a swim & read a book before checking out and back to real life.
It was GLORIOUS. I wish I'd stayed the whole weekend. I'm doing it again sometime.
That or I will action my plan to go skiing in Japan with a friend. Or maybe just by myself...
I dream of escape quite frequently. And hubby fully supports the idea of me going away all by myself to get some rest. But there are two problems- first of all, I typically come home to an absolute disaster, making me regret that I went in the first place, and secondly, I feel incredibly guilty that I am not accomplishing anything. Last May, I went on a five day trip to a work-related conference. I thought it was going to be the best of both worlds- I was going to learn something useful, AND enjoy some much-needed alone time. What actually happened? I ended up getting violently ill with strep throat the moment I arrived at my hotel, and spent much of the five days in bed. The only place I wanted to be was at home, in my own bed, where my husband could bring me chicken noodle soup. Sigh... maybe I'll have to try again some day. I got ripped off!
exactly why the scenario involves ME being at home & THEM being away. no disaster. also work conference? no, that doesn't count. that is work. I go on a work conference next week. it is NOT relaxing, lectures from 8 AM to 6 PM all day. no time at all for binge watching TV!
Lurker here but I had a male coworker who would get his wife a hotel for the weekend for her Mother's Day present. Amazing! Of course I mentioned this to my husband and he thought that was an awful gift. :) Someday....
YES to the decluttering. EXACTLY. if you're at home, things will be way way better at the end. if you go away, DISASTER that'll take days to get back on top of
I carve out alone time whenever possible. If I have a morning appointment, I often leave earlier than necessary and sit in a coffee shop. If I leave work early for an afternoon appointment, I may run "fun" errands or sit in a coffee shop instead of going home right away. Makes a huge difference!
If you replaced binge eating with exercise and alternated who had to fo(daughter vs husband) then yes.
ReplyDeletethey ALL have to go in the above scenario. introvert dreams.
DeleteI have to admit that all of the above are why post call days can be so enjoyable.
DeleteI think my fantasy would involve someone else doing all the housework, me getting to sleep in, and eating lots of fancy food (like from fancy restaurants).
ReplyDeletesleeping in & not doing housework are 100% part of it. but also cheese puffs.
DeleteEven an afternoon or evening in the house by myself feels incredibly luxurious. I get to eat whatever I want and watch a whole movie?!?! Amazing!
ReplyDeleteIs it too depressing to remember that before kids I could do that pretty much any weekend I wanted?
but did you? I didn't. Too hung up on "getting things done".
DeleteOnce! In the two years I've had kids. I'll still be talking about how great it was years from now....
DeleteI'd settle for a day...
ReplyDeletei like to dream big.
DeleteSadly I would spend the entire time feeling guilty I wasn't doing research. In this fantasy I would have to be incapacitated somehow and unable to work. Preferably with RAs or coauthors getting stuff done without me.
ReplyDeletehonestly, work would be ok. you can work as much as you need and THEN relax guilt-free
Deletebut I'm an academic, if I did that I would never get to read trashy novels or watch TV because it NEVER ENDS.
DeleteI think it would rule for about 3 days then I'd need to socialize :) but otherwise yes sign me up.
ReplyDelete(ps the Sarah commenter above was not me but yes back then I was wayyyyy too busy "getting things done" too.)
socializing, yes, I'd want that too...but like "meet friend for brunch" or "long run & chat" kind of socialize...not anyone who needs anything from me.
DeleteMy dream is to be left alone for weeks (months? years?) on end. I am sure I'd eventually start craving human contact, but not for a while.
ReplyDeleteAh, to only be responsible for myself. To be able to sleep as much as I want, and get up when I want, and make the food what i want or nothing at all, to work as much as I want and as late as I want, and watch whatever I want whenever I want...
The problem is that it would be hard to get back in the grind so I probably shouldn't indulge.
They will all go to college some day. Except the husband.
I am currently on "vacation" with 2/3 of my brood, sans DH and eldest offspring. "Vacation" means driving all day, little $%#@^ waking me up at 5 am the next day because they are too excited and go-go-go-go all day (where do they get the energy), dropping a shitton of money because they are spoiled and I am a wuss. And in the evening I have to review a proposal because I am hopelessly backlogged on everything, always.
ugh. "vacation" indeed. I do need some human contact so this is more a short term fantasy
Deletetwo weekends ago I checked into a hotel by myself, got an upgrade to a suite, spent an hour or so crocheting & watching tv, then went to the bar & ate canapés & had a glass of bubbly before going to a charity ball. I went to the ball with 9 other Mum's from my daughter's school- no partners. A good meal, wine & dancing. Back to the hotel by myself- ran a bath & watched Bones. Slept in the next morning. Had a peaceful breakfast and prepped for A job interview by reminding myself of the great & interesting things I've achieved. Then had a swim & read a book before checking out and back to real life.
ReplyDeleteIt was GLORIOUS. I wish I'd stayed the whole weekend. I'm doing it again sometime.
That or I will action my plan to go skiing in Japan with a friend. Or maybe just by myself...
omg that is awesome! good for you!
DeleteI dream of escape quite frequently. And hubby fully supports the idea of me going away all by myself to get some rest. But there are two problems- first of all, I typically come home to an absolute disaster, making me regret that I went in the first place, and secondly, I feel incredibly guilty that I am not accomplishing anything. Last May, I went on a five day trip to a work-related conference. I thought it was going to be the best of both worlds- I was going to learn something useful, AND enjoy some much-needed alone time. What actually happened? I ended up getting violently ill with strep throat the moment I arrived at my hotel, and spent much of the five days in bed. The only place I wanted to be was at home, in my own bed, where my husband could bring me chicken noodle soup. Sigh... maybe I'll have to try again some day. I got ripped off!
ReplyDeleteexactly why the scenario involves ME being at home & THEM being away. no disaster. also work conference? no, that doesn't count. that is work. I go on a work conference next week. it is NOT relaxing, lectures from 8 AM to 6 PM all day. no time at all for binge watching TV!
DeleteLurker here but I had a male coworker who would get his wife a hotel for the weekend for her Mother's Day present. Amazing! Of course I mentioned this to my husband and he thought that was an awful gift. :) Someday....
ReplyDeletesee, I wouldn't really like that (see above re: disaster). i really really want to be at home, get some stuff cleaned up, work done, etc...
DeleteYes,yes,yes. With this exact scenario so no disaster when I come back. I might even perform some decluttering fun while at home.
ReplyDeleteYES to the decluttering. EXACTLY. if you're at home, things will be way way better at the end. if you go away, DISASTER that'll take days to get back on top of
DeleteI carve out alone time whenever possible. If I have a morning appointment, I often leave earlier than necessary and sit in a coffee shop. If I leave work early for an afternoon appointment, I may run "fun" errands or sit in a coffee shop instead of going home right away. Makes a huge difference!
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