Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Springing Ahead

The snow has melted, the days are longer, and we all just got better from a week of alternating illnesses (upper respiratory and GI in a wondrous mix). Everything's coming up Ana!

I was inspired by reading SHU's evening routine post to make some changes to our own evenings. For multiple reasons, we've completely switched things up lately. We enrolled B in an evening activity (karate, 2 blocks from his school, 5:30-6, M/W) so we have to tag team the pick up, where one of us takes B to class and the other gets L home & walks the dog (typically G brings them home and I go home & walk the dog, the daycare is 2 blocks from his office). That means more one on one kid time which both of us find so much more enjoyable than trying to wrangle both kids. Because B is starving after karate, we started sending a small "dinner" for him to eat before class. And then, since he liked that, we started sending dinners with both boys some days. Which means we no longer eat together as a family most nights. It also means we can: go to the park, stop for a treat on the way home, go to the library, or just PLAY together instead of struggling through trying to get kids who are excited to be home with their toys to wash hands, sit at table on bottoms, eat, use manners, wait until everyone is done. There was always nagging, often yelling, and sometimes tears. And G and I had to hoover down our food while we tended to the kids' needs for more this and I dropped that and the DAILY bathroom breaks during dinner (gastro-colic reflex must be strong).

We don't do it everyday (because we frankly can't get it together to pre-cook a dinner every weeknight), and we'll probably take a break from it when G's mom is here for the next 3 weeks, but it was just so so freeing to finally recognize that no one was getting anything except rage out of family dinners right now, and our time with our kids has way more quality doing other things.

Since I now have to leave work early to head across town twice a week, I started going in earlier on those days. Which means our mornings have changed, too. Negotiating this schedule led to a realization and then a discussion about my need to start working as early as possible to take advantage of my energy cycle. I am a morning person, and using that precious morning energy on wrangling kids (which also sometimes led to fights with G)---which left me spent by the time I even got to work---was a really poor time/energy management. I will no longer take the kids to school outside of special circumstances (I used to do it once or twice a week because the kids asked me to) and I will not wait around watching the kids while G gets ready (his morning routine is a whole different arena and his problem to solve). They can play alone or watch a show the way they do on the days I leave early for clinic.

I'm sitting here writing this after a very atypical day. I woke up at 5:30 to work out, got ready, then did laundry and lunch prep for tomorrow waiting to take B to the dentist at 9:30. After the dentist, I met G and we went to the bank to close on the refinance of our mortgage. We finished early and got lunch from a food cart and ate it at a park near city hall. Then I walked home and worked full tilt from noon-5, got everything done in half the time, and now I will take the dog out. G is taking the boys to the park since its the last nice day this week so they may not be home until late. We'll give them a snack, get them to bed, and eat dinner while watching...not sure...we finished House of Cards last night.

I'm not happy with this post, its poorly written, but I know its better to just start back up and the more inspired posts will come. Still haven't worked out a blogging routine. How do you guys make time?


  1. "How do you guys make time?"

    To be honest: By procrastinating from doing something that is much more important. Blogging is easy when you're doing it instead of what you should be doing.

    (Also, the post is not actually poorly written.)

  2. I enjoyed this, Ana...the mixup of the routine and all. And NandM is/are right :)

  3. I literally write all of my blog posts in the middle of the night when I'm on night shift. That's the only time I can find. It's so tough to fit it all in.

    And this really wasn't poorly written.

    I haven't started season 2 of House of Cards yet. Too busy watching Suits. I highly recommend it.

  4. Right now, the time I'm using is:

    15-30 min during lunchtime
    25 min during Daniel Tiger at around 7:15pm. I feel slightly guilty about this, but A stays up late (until 8:30-9) and I feel like we need this little break from each other during the evening routine (C is asleep at 7).

  5. Congrats on figuring out that family dinner was causing nothing but rage. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work, and ascribing more meaning to it than it deserves helps no one.

    I've been writing 2-3 blog posts on the weekend ahead of the week they'll run. But I'll also just do it during the day since I'm not at an office or anything.

  6. I agree with nicoleandmaggie. I blog by not doing things that are much more important. Right now most of my blogging happens at work, when I get there early and can avoid planning or grading for a bit. It almost always comes back to bite me on the ass later though.

    I want to be writing so much more than I am right now. I have a long lists of posts to write, but there just isn't enough time and I'm trying to be accepting of that.

    I love the way your afternoon/evenings sound right now. Now that it's lighter longer into the evening I'm going to try to take a couple of notes from your new routines and change ours up a little.