Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Dealing with It

I am still, and likely will be forever, working on developing healthier coping mechanisms for life's inevitable setbacks. Yesterday I got to put these into practice, and I'm fairly proud of myself! I got an email around 3:30 PM that a foundation grant I submitted in April was administratively rejected because I didn't comply with some (as yet unclear) rule. My stomach sank; I had worked extremely hard on this and thought it had a decent chance of funding. My disappointment was overwhelming and I knew I wasn't going to get a whole lot done on paper writing.

I wrote back immediately asking for clarification (take action) and looked over the submission again and couldn't find anything wrong. I finished up essential tasks for the day and decided to leave 45 minutes early. I went and got my eyebrows threaded (self-care) and picked B up from after-care early (quality time with loved ones). We walked home, stopping to point out flowers, a cat, a bird (mindfulness) and then took the dog on a long walk (exercise, time outside). I patiently helped B with homework (more QT). Then I made lunches for the rest of the week and cooked dinner while listening to the "Happier" podcast (accomplishments, positive distractions). When G got home, we talked about it (sharing) and when he asked me if I wanted a glass of wine I said no (sticking to my goals), but did ask him to pick up some seltzer when he went to the store later, and a healthy-ish post-dinner treat (asking for what I need). I read stories to the boys and put them to bed (QT), and then G and I had a 150-calorie Yasso ice cream bar, some seltzer, and watched Sunday's episode of Silicon Valley(QT, reasonable treats). I went to bed by 10 (self-care).

I'm still super annoyed and waiting for them to get back to me about what the heck I did wrong, and if there is any possibility of reversing this decision. But I'm planning a productive day.


  1. This is awesome! I'm sorry about the Grant and find it hard to believe they wouldn't give you another chance. But grants can be weird that way. Good luck!

  2. Great job!

    I hope they fix the foundation grant thing and let it through.

  3. That is super annoying about the grant. Hopefully you can get some clarification on what they wanted. Yay for positive coping mechanisms!

  4. Your response sounds mindful in itself; it's great that you were able to work out what you need.

    I wish there were a better word for self-care (or maybe I wish we lived in a culture that didn't require a word for taking care of one's needs as a human?).

    Also, after your book post I started listening to the audio book of Just Mercy. Loving it!

    1. Yeah, I hate the term 'self care' it sounds so precious. I guess another word would be "health" or "wellness"(also annoying)