OMDG asked for a sample of our morning routine, so here it is. I need to qualify this with the fact that actually every morning is different, as we wake up at different times based on L's sleep overnight and how tired we are feeling. And since neither of us have to be at work at any specific time (save the one glorious day per week when I have 8AM patients and just leave the house no matter what at 7:30), the routine can take as little or as long as we let it.Since the fight we had Thursday morning spurred this, I will try to recap what happened that morning. I could not help editorializing so you could feel your blood pressure rise as you read it, too!
4AM: L wakes up shrieking. I extract him from his crib in boys' room and place him in pack-and-play in guest room to cry it out. He shrieks for less than 5 minutes and falls asleep. I am awake for 30-45 minutes, though.
6:30 AM: We wake up to L shrieking again. Its still pretty dark outside and G actually goes and pats him and leaves him to CIO again, thinking it is the middle of the night. When he comes back up, I inform him it is daytime and to get him. He brings him into bed & leaves him with me while he goes to the bathroom to brush teeth & shave.
6:40 AM: G takes L downstairs & feeds him pancakes, cheerios, and milk while I brush & use bathroom.
6:50 AM: I head downstairs & pour myself coffee. G goes on walk with dog.
7:05 AM: I have finished coffee and go upstairs to change L's clothes & wake up B. B imitates surly teenager and refuses to get up for quite some time. Then refuses to pee. Then refuses to open mouth for tooth brushing or to cooperate in any way with getting dressed.
7:20 AM: Head downstairs, both boys dressed & teeth brushed, for B to eat breakfast. B eats nothing and there is toddler-y behavior. G returns from dog walk and proceeds to make his breakfast. Every day. EVERY DAY. he eats the same thing: 2 scrambled eggs & a bowl of oatmeal with banana/cinnamon/toasted walnuts. I go to get ready (bathroom/shower/dressed).
7:40 AM: I come down, ready to go. G is still eating breakfast & feeding L oatmeal. B asked for some. B ate nothing. I start pulling our lunches together and loading up the stroller. I put the cover on the sofa in the basement (dog started to sleep on sofa while we're at home and it was getting gross) G finishes breakfast and cleans up the breakfast dishes, etc...
8:10 AM: G goes upstairs to get ready (bathroom/shower/dress). I know this will take some time. I eat a protein bar. I let the boys play for a while & change another poopy diaper. I find coats/mittens/etc...Cleaners are coming today so I put $ in envelope and get the cleaning products/rags ready. Feed dog. At 8:30 I start dressing them to go out. L doesn't handle cold well so I have to put this whole-body suit with attached mittens on him which is...fun. I take B to the toilet to pee, which involves tantrums. B heads upstairs when I wasn't looking.
8:40 AM: G finally comes down. I make snarky comment about "took you long enough...". Fight etc...
Coax B downstairs, coax dog downstairs and close the gate (she has also started jumping on beds when we're not home so we have to baby-gate her downstairs). Get shoes on. L kicks his off. Repeat. Put hats on, both take them off. Repeat. Fight with B to get mittens on, he takes off. Repeat X 3.
8:55 AM Leave the house.
Ha! I'm sure you notice the million inefficiencies here, I am well aware of them. The problem is not so much how to streamline, but more, how to get husband on board without seeming too naggy? Or how to keep myself from losing my shit, regardless of what happens?
I'd welcome any advice.